It amazes me how often we as humans think we can usurp God. How we can "outsmart" Him, slide one by or the best one, "He'll never notice".
God will do as He sees fit - not using "our" way of thinking, but His. I think about all the pain and suffering that went on because of Absalom. I greatly admire David in what I have learned about him through scripture. I admire foremost His love for God. I admire how he came from being a shepherd to being a king and did so much good for God.
Perhaps if David had of stepped up to the plate when they were younger, different choices would have been made. I don't know. I do know though that God doesn't bury His head in the sand. He will use any method to save us.
That's why it is essential to draw our counsel from Him - and from those that are In His Word.